Dare to Feel

Hello, Spiritual Soldiers,

As we move through this week wrapped in the energy of green, I’ve been reflecting on the lessons that come with opening the heart chakra. This space asks us to remember that it’s okay to feel deeply, to be intentional, to forgive, to allow love in, and to give it freely. And yet, with that truth comes the reminder that healing the heart takes work.

I often find myself asking: Am I truly worthy of love? Am I ready to give love openly? Should I forgive this person? Why do I still struggle with attachment, forgiveness, and loss?

What I’ve come to understand is that much of this begins in childhood. The way we’re shown love—or the lack of it—becomes the blueprint we carry into adulthood. As we grow, we must decide whether those early teachings align with the love we want to give and receive. Relationships with friends, family, and partners inevitably test these beliefs in real time.

As a child and teenager, I gave love endlessly. I poured so much into others that when I was hurt, it felt like someone had severed my heartstrings. Still, even in pain, I always chose to see the best in people. But as an adult, I’ve learned the importance of boundaries and self-work.

When I stepped into my spiritual journey, I knew I had to face the roots of my struggles with love. My focus became clear: understanding my intentions. Why am I doing this work? What do I want from it? How do I want to feel on the other side?

For me, part of the answer was becoming more affectionate—offering hugs, holding hands, receiving compliments as truth. It also meant setting the standard for how I wanted to be treated, rather than passively accepting whatever was offered. I had to release the expectation that others would love the way I do. And I had to embrace forgiveness, not as excusing harm, but as freeing myself from carrying it.

A beautiful example of living with clear intentions was when I met my wife. From the start, I released expectations and allowed the universe to guide us. But as our connection deepened, I was honest and clear about my vision for myself and my life. I didn’t just “go with the flow”—I set the tone for open communication, regular check-ins, and space for our feelings to exist without pressure. That intentionality built the foundation for our love.

My journey is ongoing. These days, I journal, talk with myself in the shower, breathe deeply, meditate, and practice being present. I check in with myself often, notice my emotions as they rise, and gently dismantle the patterns that no longer serve me. Each step brings me closer to healing my heart.

So I ask you: What is one thing you’ve done to begin loving freely, openly, and unapologetically?

Peace & Love,
Rayne